Wednesday, February 11, 2004

Watcha Looking At

One of my professors is creeping me out. Kevin, Yvonne, and I were sitting talking while waiting for class to start last night. My prof comes up and starts talking to us. No big deal, except he was talking to all of us but staring at me. He would not break eye contact. I would look at the door, at Kevin, at Yvonne, at something on my desk, anything just to break eye contact. I thought maybe I was crazy but Yvonne noticed it too.

I'm not a shifty person. I have no problem looking someone in the eye. However, I also believe that the eyes are the windows to the soul. As such, prolonged eye contact is a very intimate gesture, reserved for a select few. I equate what he does with someone who stands too close. It goes against social norms.

Don't invade my space and don't invade my soul.

18 comments:

irun01 said...

I agree with you COMPLETELY.

anniere723 said...

WOW,That would freak me out too! By the way....Great picture.

slowmotionlife said...

I agree completely. It's inappropriate, especially if you break eye contact, look away, and look uncomfortable in any way. Some people don't have good social skills or any sense of what's appropriate and what's not. It's like people who stand too close, as you mentioned, or people who ask far too personal questions.

If he continues, you might try laughing out loud.. and then mentioning that his "stare" is too "intense". Mention that it makes you uncomfortable.

quroboros said...

I'd be curious to know what subject he was teaching,.. maybe Psychology 101? This tactic is a power trip for some folks. The trick is to deal with these types like our cousins in the animal kingdom. Fix an unblinking stare on them, zero in with your best 'carnivore's gaze' and let them know you consider them on the menu for lunch. Your picture is a fine example of that ice-cold, predatory leer that makes people like this back off! ;-) Holly

darlingca24 said...

I know I am late but I wanted to thank you for leaving your words of encouragment for me. About your professor I would also be so freaked out. You are so right about the how prolonged eye contact is a intimate gesture. I send you the best of luck with this problem.

rbushu said...

I have a friend with an unblinking stare. She's amphibious too. Just shut your eyes. And breathe with your tongue.

linus131999 said...

weird that would have made me uncomfortable also just a eery feeling

bridgetteleigh75 said...

That picture you have creeps me out! Yikes. I'd hate to run into THAT thing while out for a swim.

More to the point...I agree with you. Either this professor wasn't schooled in what's appropriate and what's not...or he's a raging pervert. Either way...I'd steer clear.

XO ~ Bridgett

karensull12 said...

I think I might have had to ask him what exactly was he looking at so intently. I'm with you--it's creepy.

starlitemaker said...

the photo is brilliantly tied to this entry...how creepy is that, him staring at you the whole time. You're a stunner, but really didn't his mommy teach him that staring isn't a nice thing to do, he needs to learn respect....geesh.

Hugs Beverly

raisinglouisiana said...

I agree with you completely. I don't like that, I don't
want certain people standing too close to me, or
being too persistant in their attentions. I need my space,
and my soul is not for invading either!
I am so hearing you on this one right now....
Love, Penny

musenla said...

Was he looking at you in a threatening way or an icky way? Regardless, that is creepy.

queenz43 said...

I'm definitely feeling you on this one.
I wanted to say also thanks for the words you left over on my page, and you have been there before, just on one of the older entries. Hope to see you again,
RC

babyshark28 said...

oh yea... gotta watch those eyes. It's true, he was *voicing* to you that he's interested in you, in a very aggressive way actually. I would watch out for him, he might be looking for signs that your interested in him as well. Makes me wonder what other girls he's tried or suceeded to entice....though I don't worry about you, you seem like a strong lady "Don't invade my space and don't invade my soul" LOVE THAT.

andreakingme said...

I can't think of the show, but it's the one where they take an undatable person and fix 'er up. And one of the social no-no's this girl did was to nail people with her unblinkable stare. Until she saw the video of herself and this guy at dinner, she wasn't even aware of how uncomfortable she was making him by not giving him "space" by glancing away.

Robbie, no more arriving at class early!

babyshark28 said...

hmmm, I heard you had an about me pick....where is it??? (I was snoopin' through freee's comments) :)

snkwarren said...

When our oldest daughter was in school, we noticed a male teacher giving her this kind of interest, she thought he was a creep too and it proved true when he was accused and admitted to an affair with a student. Your instincts are probably dead on with this one as well. Kristi

itsjustusinnc said...

Don't let that F*CK creep you out Robbie!!! Kick him right in the ding-ding! Or better yet, hit him where it really hurts-- his ego! I find that if you totally crush someone's ego with a few choice words, they tend not to bother you ever again.

Gregg