Sunday, January 11, 2004

Mothers! Can't live with them, wouldn't be alive without them.

I am 36 years old. I've been on my own since I was 17. I haven't always made the best decisions but I've bumped along the road of life and managed to not get stuck in the pot holes for too long.  I've never been arrested :::knocks on wood::: but I've done some stupid things as I've traveled along the highways and bi-ways. I've worked hard for everything I have and feel pretty darn good about the woman that I've become. I look forward to what the future holds for me. 

I've done this with very little support, financial or emotional, from my mother. So, why is it that she must still be so critical of everything about me. Nothing is ever good enough, up to and including my hair.

Yesterday, after logging back onto the computer in the afternoon because I was tired of unpacking and needed a break for a while, my mother sends me an email. It said: "6 hours online!!! Robbie, have you finished unpacking?" Why, oh why, did I ever show her how to use Yahoo Messenger?

I wonder if all mothers are this way, or is it just mine. We are worlds apart and will never see eye-to-eye. I wonder if there's some class they give new mothers called "How to irritate your child at any age?"

5 comments:

irun01 said...

Hang in there sis. Unpacking sucks, and you deserved a break.

karensull12 said...

I wrote an entry a while ago about my parents. Growing up they were distant and undemonstrative, but loved us in their own fashion. I never have felt supported by my parents and this has left me feeling somewhat disconnected to the world. I would not call them if I was in trouble--they only want to hear good things. It's taken me awhile, but I've learned to let go of any anger over it. I remain feeling sad, however. I feel like I should be able to count on them, but I can't.

musenla said...

That image is so apropos to your entry. Mothers and daughters will always have their friction, I think. You're definitely not alone, Robbie. My mom gets on my case too, a lot, no matter what a wonderful job she's done raising her daughter. =D

slowmotionlife said...

<<I wonder if there's some class they give new mothers called "How to irritate your child at any age?">>

No class is necessary. This ability is transferred to you the minute you give birth. It's a natural talent. :P

slowmotionlife said...

P.S. Children are only given the ability to appreciate their mother's ability to irritate them at any given age the moment their mother passes away.

Food for thought. ::smile::